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  • Bruce Springsteen

    “All I do know is as we age, the weight of our unsorted baggage becomes heavier . . . much heavier. With each passing year, the price of our refusal to do that sorting rises higher and higher. . . . Long ago, the defenses I built to withstand the stress of my childhood, to save what I had of myself, outlived their usefulness, and I’ve become an abuser of their once lifesaving powers. I relied on them wrongly to isolate myself, seal my alienation, cut me off from life, control others, and contain my emotions to a damaging degree. Now the bill collector is knocking, and his payment’ll be in tears.”  Esquire Magazine Interview, December 2018

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States of Being

In this section you will find writings in which I reflect affective and emotional states we may experience in response to challenging events (e.g.: the start of a new relationship, conflict, opportunities)

Affect is the experiential state of feeling. In everyday language, terms like affect, emotion, and mood are often used interchangeably. Affect is the superordinate category; emotions and moods are states belonging to this category. Emotions and moods are mainly distinguished by their duration, and by whether they are directed at a specific cause. Emotions are fairly fleeting and intense experiences that are elicited in response to specific external stimuli (i.e., objects or events), and may arise relatively automatically, or following a cognitive appraisal of a stimulus (e.g., Is this a safe person/situation  to open up to?)


Coast to the edge

gaze over to see

unknowns, unknowns

will there be harmony?


Will it be like the darkness

fumbling around

no sense of the bottom

where is the ground?


In the opening


frightening thing,

will it do good, hurt,

what can it bring?


No promise of perfect ease

no timeline to propose

mystery of history

life to disclose


What gets one here 

peeling away truth

bad feelings

mishandled dealings

someone to soothe ?


Longing at the border

for a sign of relief

hoping for a foothold

support for the grief

unknowing, yet this stirring

taking the step

unknowing but moving

seeking some depth.